Neesha and David Oliver – Former Nazarenes

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October 18, 2016

Neesha grew up with an interest in pursuing youth ministry in the Nazarene Church.  David felt isolated as a young teen until he heard the Gospel at a Nazarene youth gathering.  They met in college and married, and spent the next few years bouncing around trying to find where God would have them minister.  After a series of frustrations and rejections in David’s pursuit of the ministry, they began to visit other congregations, settling in an Episcopalian community.

During this time, they were struggling with infertility.  Because they knew that IVF was morally problematic, they asked around, and were eventually referred to a nurse who specialized in NaPro technology, a fertility care model developed by Catholics who wanted to uphold Church teaching on human sexuality.  The physical and spiritual care they received during that process became a major factor in their decision to become Catholic.

If you know a couple who is struggling with infertility, and is looking for morally sound spiritual and medical solutions to a problem that they feel like no one understands, share this episode with them!

  • Peter

    Neesha and David, my wife and I were living in Mass like you and we went to Dr. Carpentier. We found we could not conceive either. We decided to adopt and for the past 5 1/2 years we have been blessed with two of the most beautiful children. Maybe God has that is store for you as well.

  • Jackie

    This is literally the first time I have ever commented on something online. Nee

    • Jackie

      Okay, you can see how well my first online comment went. 🙂

      Anyway… Thank you for sharing your story even though you have not yet received the answer you’ve been hoping for. My husband and I have been trying to have children for almost four years. He has two daughters from a former marriage that have lived with us full time (except most summers) for nearly the past nine years. God unexpectedly led us to the Catholic church and we are in the process of having the former relationship annulled. You can imagine how one’s questions, anger and struggle are intensified knowing that another woman was able to conceive children with your husband. Part of my faithfulness to my wedding vows has turned out to be almost total responsibility for these girls without ever knowing if I’ll have my own. Catholic teaching on marriage has actually been very helpful in that I can now see that having children together is not what “makes” a marriage. God at the center, from the very beginning, is what makes a marriage. I can totally relate to your finding God in your suffering as well. A huge point of growth over the past four years was realizing that our former church was actually toxic in its emphasis on God’s desire to heal; i.e. that God WILL heal in every circumstance and if you don’t see healing or answered prayers, you don’t have faith. The Lord has totally freed us from this lie and I now honestly feel that as soon as I can receive Him in the Eucharist, I will truly have all I need. There will always be a struggle if we don’t conceive children of our own, but I will have a treasure so much more valuable than even children would be.

      That was a major diversion but mainly what I’m trying to say is thank you for your honesty and vulnerability. I will pray that God grants you the desires of your hearts as you are obviously trying to seek first His kingdom.